So what is it like to have immense self-control and self-discipline?
If you could improve yours, would your life be very different?
Well, we can seriously boost these essential qualities, enabling us to regulate ourselves more effectively and build our resilience.
Holly Dickinson is a recruitment consultant by day …. and in her spare time she is a natural body builder. With her outstanding self-regulation we wanted to get to grips with what makes Holly tick and understand how she focuses her mind and body.
Over the last few years nutrition, training, and obesity have been hot topics. Holly has always been active and completed a nutrition degree at University but she still managed to put on a lot of weight and wanted to do something about it.
She started running but that plateaued, so she wanted to find something else that she enjoyed and was good for her. Holly fell into doing weights at the gym, then a friend suggested to take it further to do a competition and it progressed from there to doing training twice a day and enjoying it.
Is there a risk of being over obsessed with diet and body image? Yes of course says Holly, you get into such incredible shape when you are training hard twice a day for competitions and people struggle to be happy with their bodies when they are not in competition shape. Friends and family also struggle to understand your regime….. that you don’t want a roast dinner at your mums and have to take your own pot of chicken!!
Holly does not do things by half, if she had one biscuit she would have to eat the whole packed!! So she says she would rather eat healthily than have a biscuit. In preparation for the last competition she had a good diet without anything processed but as soon as she did after that competition, she felt horrendous.
So what does Holly do to maintain a reasonably lean physic when she is not focusing on competitions? She “plans”. She may go out and have something for dinner with friends but then after that – she is “back on track”. Now that she knows how good she can feel, nutrition and training help to develop this. It can be hard but Holly tries to look at the bigger picture. That food may make you feel better now but will that then knock you mentally off track.?
How do you use that self-discipline in the workplace? Holly now understands that she likes to have a plan and set goal. If she really struggles to get started she sets small goals, then bigger ones. Once written down – Holly has to do them, as she doesn’t want to fail, letting herself or others down. She wants to be the best she can. “What could I be if I do achieve this goal?”.
The mental game
Through the competition process, Holly enjoys the journey. “I can know say that I gave that everything I could, and look how far I have came!” Where could she be if she carries on next year? She simply wants to be the best she could be.
Do you have self-doubt and worry? Holly often doubted that she was not good enough. She looked at old pictures to see how far she had come. Mentally for Holly she was still that slightly overweight person from university, so had to remind herself that she was not that person any more and just get on with it.
Whilst deciding if to compete, she asked myself “what is stopping me?” You just have to commit and get on with it, I only get one shot at this life. The idea of commitment is important to Holly. Once you have nailed down having a great routine, other things then seem to be a bit of a doddle.
There really were days when Holly didn’t want to continue but the next day she would be positive again, make progress and that would spur her on. You just have to enjoy that journey. Life is a journey where you can keep tweaking things to improve.
These sorts of events and competition have brought more confidence to Holly. Previously in work she struggled when getting feedback from managers. “I was sensitive so I didn’t like people to feel badly of me as I always try and do my best – so bad feedback really effected me”. But last week she asked her manager for a feedback session to try and find out what she could develop…. last year she would never have done that so she thinks it has made me tougher.
Holly realises how great she feels from eating well and that lifestyle is the key to her happiness. There are so many preventable diseases and deaths that can really be prevented if people ate well and maintained a healthy weight and didn’t fall for processed food. Listen to Holly’s podcast at www.qedod.com/podcasts as she is keen to help people understand how they can optimise their lives. Her goal is to now develop her business as a wellness lifestyle coach as she realises that many aspects of life have a massive impact on us and our health.
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